Heina is a speaker and panelist on a range of diverse topics including feminism, race, LGBT issues, the challenges of deconversion, Islam, non-monogamy, strategies for inclusivity, and the various intersections of the above.You may have heard them at Skepticon, the American Atheists National Convention, the Huffington Post Live, and Have Your Say on the BBC World Service or read about them in the New York Times.There seemed to be 10 girls for every single available guy in church.Then there was the pressure of every person I knew asking about my relationship status every time I saw them.Unfortunately, some Christians hope that they can convert the person he/she is dating or marrying.They often think that their spirituality is strong enough so that they can witness, or motivate the other person to convert through their patience and love. Three reasons: They love the person and are emotionally blinded, they are naive, or they do not know God's Word.This may sound harsh, but something as serious as marrying an unbeliever needs to be dealt with properly and to-the-point.
Don't be so naive to think that "you" will never fall. If you marry an unbeliever and have children, how will it effect their spirituality to have the parents divided over spiritual things?
You cannot leave your spouse (unless there is physical abuse, adultery, or if you are abandoned).
This grandson flew across the country to surprise his grandmother with the Nat King Cole classic she taught him as a child. His family and church started grooming her with their beliefs so she would fit nicely into their family belief system and eventually marry.
Is it a help or a hindrance to their spiritual health? Unfortunately, too many people do not take into account the extremely serious situation of children and their eternal destiny.
Yet, because of "love" and because they listen to their hearts over the Word of God, many people marry unbelievers anyway... If you are already married to an unbeliever then you need to love him/her as best you can, set a good example of being a Christian, and pray for your spouse's salvation.