After almost 6 months of no luck I had an epiphany. I was looking for a relationship I wasn’t ready, nor did I deserve to get.I asked of all these things from a woman, but what did I ask of myself? Example: I said non-negotiable was a Christian woman. Until I limited my drinking, got more involved with the church, and created new ground rules for myself, that virtuous woman was not going show up.Because what I have tragically found is that Christian singles hit an area of desperation, particularly young women, and they will go: “Yeah, he is a Christian, he comes to church.” And really what they’re saying is this guy comes to church a couple of times a month, but outside of attending a service, he doesn’t have a real seriousness about growing in his understanding of the Lord, growing in his understanding of the Bible, being a prayerful person, no vivication or mortification that can be spotted, and no one who really knows them enough to speak to the growth in their character.Now practically speaking, this means singles are seeking out people to speak into their lives.
But how are you supposed to know which one is the right one?
In marriage you begin to rub off on each other, subtly taking on traits and characteristics of the other.
Does this thought excite you or does it make you feel like you just digested a can of the before mentioned Play-Doh? And you need to have your own identity beyond your spouse. If you don’t want to become like the person you’re dating, should you be dating?
Personally, my only goal this year is Consistency, but I also would love a good relationship.
Beginning of this year, I told myself I wanted to be more intentional about dating.